Imperfection is the truth, and yet, we fear facing it because there is some crazy notion dancing in our heads that we must strive for perfection. Unattainable, our limitations sometimes get us into tough spots that we worry we cannot get out of. Our want of perfection becomes more difficult than we thought. We become exhausted by the complications of achieving something so close, yet so far away.
Everything can be worked through, albeit with some pain, as long as we are willing to “face the music”. Having the courage to stand face to face to those affected and admit to your misgivings is the first step to self-forgiveness. It is then the choice of others to also forgive you.
This may not happen; thus the pain of rejection. Possibly more difficult to bear is the lack of forgiveness from someone else. But remember that their unwillingness to accept you as you are is due to the fear that lives inside of them. This is their weakness that they have not faced and welcomed as part of themselves. To not forgive others is to believe that you are perfect and not capable of making a poor choice.
By not accepting our inadequacies, we create dishonesty and ruin relationships. Trust in ourselves and others is dissolved and replaced with emotional turmoil. Perfection is a goal that leads us on a painful journey of being endlessly unsuccessful. It is the difference between being “right” and being “happy”. It is unrealistic and unattainable. Accepting ourselves, mistakes and all, is the only way that we can get as close to perfection as possible.
This little beauty sat perched on my fence post for almost an hour. I was mesmerized by her ability to sit quietly, absorbing the peacefulness of the morning.
Just catching up with all your posts... love your love bird photos, and keep going back to previous post wanting you to write about the 'joy of longevity' now that you've covered the longevity of joy. xoxo
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