Guilty or Not

Here’s the thing about guilt; it is a useless emotion. It is used by weak people in an attempt to manipulate others. People who use guilt to control others are masters at their trade. They may not even know they are guilty of imposing guilt as, over time, it becomes a lifestyle for them. They sometimes create fictional lives for themselves in order to inflict guilt onto their victims. These people are usually emotionally attached to you (mothers, husbands, friends) and so the guilt is easily transferred as your love for them deters you from retaliating against it. They use your emotions and the guilt as a means to ensure they will never lose you. Their expectations become unreasonable, but you are sucked in to believing that you are obligated to meet them or you will not be loved.

This is called “conditional love”. It is abusive and unacceptable. You will know if someone loves you unconditionally because they will never threaten you with guilt. You will never have the feeling of fault or blame. You will always feel self confident in your love for them and theirs for you. There will never be a power struggle between the two of you. Control is never an issue, and they will always pull you up, rather than put you down.

Remember that people cannot really make you feel guilty because it is you that has the power to allow this manipulation to occur or not. They may try to take advantage of your vulnerability, but it is you that needs to be aware and stop the guilty gods in their tracks. They are demons in a loved one’s body and they will destroy all that is good in your relationship with them. If they are persistent and cannot be stopped, my only advice is to run and run fast.